Morality and other topics on a Saturday morning

Over brunch on Saturday  morning, we were talking about a bunch of things, and one of them was about morality. Passing judgement on others seem to be everyones' favorite pastime. It seems that we are not happy unless we can assert a holier-than-thou attitude over someone else's appearance, choice of mate, opinions, possessions, the list goes on. When did it become ok to be judgmental over someones' else's life choices. If it doesn't impact you in any way, why should one bother to enforce one's own personal view over another? 


People say the mean well when they impart advice. Unsolicited advice however is not welcome and not warranted in several situations. I once saw a movie of of a mother who was extremely concerned over her sons' sexuality. She worried constantly for his soul and was always praying that he will 'see the light' She lectured him constantly on how it was unnatural and immoral for him to be having feelings for other males. After constant pressuring, religious intervention, threats of psycho therapy and counselling, the son went on to marry a woman and have children with her. The mother thought she had 'cured' her son of his 'disease'. The young man's wife was later found dead and post mortem revealed that she was a victim of continual spousal domestic abuse. The couple's children often witnessed their mother being beaten. He would curse at their mother and ask her why didn't she have a penis. Why did she have to be a woman. He would drink heavily and beat their mother up. They grew up with emotional trauma and stress. After the death of the wife, the young man killed himself right in front of his children, before warning is son to not become a faggot. 


At the end of the movie, the mother was seen telling her friends about her son's death. She claims to be proud of having saved his soul from damnation as he did not die as a homosexual. It was a pretty sick movie and I can't remember the title of it now. This movie is one extreme example of how fanatically moralistic people can pervert reality to the point of inhumanity. 


Not the most pleasant thing to be discussing over cappucinos and eggs. So we diverted to other topics, such as dating someone who already has children, your personal age ceiling and proper ettiquette in the bedroom. 


Some things that we discovered:


Most of us are in favor of going out with someone who already has a child provided the child does not stay with the partner and is already old enough to go to the bathroom on their own. We were willing to accept children because that meant that the person is responsible enough to raise kids. 


Personal age ceiling differed greatly. Some were adamant against younger men, others claimed that anyone above the age of 40 is off limits. I say, it depends on the person. Of course age is a huge factor in many ways, but if you are able to connect on many other levels, why let a number be the determining factor? I can go either way, younger or older. :)


Proper etiquette in the bedroom was again very varied. Some were reluctant to reveal their number, did not want to dish on who they were secretly crushing on at work etc. I have to say that it was not exactly the type of things I would dish out on a Saturday morning. Not over coffee anyway. :)